Sorry babe, I need to get this off my chest.

I understand that it's an innocent question to you; and a year ago it probably wouldn't have bothered me hardly at all since I was stealthy then; but asking "are you going to bring any actual guy clothes on our trip?" on the eve of said trip really puts a negative spin in my head.

Especially so, when on each previous trip this past year you have also requested "I want at least one special day with just my man"

It makes me feel like everything I am is invalid to you, and you are just humoring me but you really haven't accepted that this is more than a roleplay for me.

And then there's the defense you use when I question or criticize - you immediately suggest that you'll just withdraw your participation entirely. "Just go without me" and "I just wont talk at all anymore since I cant say anything right"

I feel like if your regular means of dealing with conflict in our relationship is to immediately threaten withdrawal, then you aren't really emotionally present in the first place.

I will probably revert this to a draft before you see it. but I had to put this frustration somewhere. It hurts me when you do this. and work tomorrow is going to be a bitch already. I didn't need this tonight.

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